What’s holding you back from finding lasting love?
We all want to find love. We desire the companionship, affection, and intimacy that a healthy relationship provides. But sometimes, we can be our own worst enemy when it comes to finding and keeping love. So what holds us back from lasting love? What’s the one thing that stands in the way of us in having a happy love life?
Friends, welcome back to The School of Greatness. Today’s guest is Marisa Peer. She is the creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy® (RTT®), which is a neuroscience-based pioneering therapy that potentially offers quick and effective results by combining the most beneficial principles of Psychotherapy, Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), and Hypnotherapy.
In this episode, we discuss the biggest lies we tell ourselves in relationships, what keeps most of us from finding lasting love, what needs to be aligned in our lives for a relationship to work, and so much more. This is going to be powerful for so many of you whether you’re in a relationship or not, and I’m sure you all are going to love this. So sit back, relax, and let the class begin.
Who Is Marisa Peer?
Marisa Peer is a highly successful motivational speaker, hypnotherapist trainer, relationship therapist, nutritionist, and bestselling author of the book, I Am Enough: Mark Your Mirror And Change Your Life. Marisa is using hypnosis to overcome fear and manage weight loss, anxiety, and addiction. She has spent more than 30 years working with CEOs and popular personalities like actors, Olympic athletes, rock stars, and even royalties.
Her other books are Trying to Get Pregnant, You Can Be Thin, Ultimate Confidence, and You Can Be Younger. She’s also an expert in subjects like infertility (pregnancy), career, fears and phobias, low self-esteem, stage fright, weight loss, hypnosis, addiction, and relationships. Lately, she’s written a new book called Tell Yourself a Better Lie: Use the power of Rapid Transformational Therapy to edit your story and rewrite your life. It is a powerful book, and I recommend you check it out. This is actually the second interview I’ve done with Marisa Peer. So if you haven’t listened to our first conversation, make sure to check it out. But in this episode, we’ll talk about relationships and the biggest lies we tell ourselves about them.
The Biggest Lies We Tell Ourselves in Relationships
Everyone tells themselves little white lies in their relationships from time to time. It could be something small, like pretending you’re okay when you’re really not. But sometimes the lies we tell ourselves can be much bigger and can end up doing a lot more damage, so it’s important to address them head-on. Our guest, Marisa, shared with us the biggest lie she told herself and how she managed it.
“‘I’m not lovable, so I better work for love. I better pretend I’m amazing, or always be at the gym, or look a certain way so I can convince everyone that I’m lovable.’ But in convincing them, it didn’t work because I could convince them but I hadn’t convinced myself. So I convinced someone else [that] I’m so great, but I didn’t believe it, which made me act out. … The lie is, ‘I am not worthy of love. … You’ll be disappointed one day if I don’t always look amazing, or be an amazing mom, or keep an amazing house, [or] if I don’t always earn enough money.’” – Marisa Peer
It’s normal to feel like you’re not good enough at times. We all have moments where we don’t feel confident in ourselves. However, it’s important to remember that these negative thoughts are just lies that we tell ourselves. The truth is, you are lovable and you are worthy of love and happiness. So don’t let these negative thoughts hold you back from being your best self! Believe in yourself, and remind yourself how lovable you are every day.
