Jefferson Bethke

Jeff has great energy, so it was especially interesting to hear him tell his story about losing his virginity as a teenager, being addicted to porn for years, and growing up without a dad around.

We discussed why marriages are failing, how they don’t solve anyone’s problems, and why they are still a good idea.

I also loved his perspective on how Millenials can set themselves up to date and marry wisely, as well as his definition of masculinity.

No matter what your values and beliefs around love and marriage, I invite you to listen in on our conversation about how to make love last in Episode 550.

Some Questions I Ask:

• Why does marriage matter so much? (11:25)
• Is there a way to be married and not sacrifice your dreams? (13:23)
• Why are so many marriages failing? (16:02)
• How much is too vulnerable in relationships? (26:00)
• What is your advice to Millenials who want to get married quickly? (30:38)
• How would you rank your marriage right now? (39:50)
• How does religion support or hurt marriages? (42:24)
• How do people get the courage to speak up about their values even if they’re not popular? (45:14)
• If men grow up without fathers, what’s the healthy solution to find role models of masculinity? (48:16)

In this episode, you will learn:

• Why kids are actually waiting to have sex now (1:30)
• The shocking statistics around how many kids are fatherless today (3:36)
• How we are playing spiritual and sexual Jenga (4:42)
• The difference between a contract relationship and a covenant relationship (17:50)
• Jeff’s definition of masculinity (50:07)
• Plus much more…

Show Notes:

• Love That Lasts: How We Discovered God’s Better Way for Love, Dating, Marriage, and Sex